Here is what I have to say about dating advice and what I have observed in my short stint on this planet:
None of it is really necessary.
Now, I am not saying I am some sort of expert. I'm not but I have still come to understand something very simple and it applies to almost all relationships I've witnessed be they fictional (movies) and non fictional (my life and the lives of people I know).
The only thing I have learned after all this observation is this: The right one for you will stay, no matter what ridiculousness is going on with you.
You don't need to follow a set of rules (unless that is what feels comfortable to you), you don't need to use certain techniques, you just need to be you in all your wonderful colorful glory.
Some advice will say, o well you overshare....But the person who is right for you may like that about you, they may appreciate the ever apparent honesty.
Some advice says, don't call until blah blah time....seriously? All that says to me when someone is, as they say, "playing it cool", is that you really aren't interested at all. And, for another thing, why in the world would you want to get yourself tangled up in a romantic mess with someone who isn't on some level so passionate and hot for you that they can barely contain their enthusiasm to contact you as soon and as often as possible?
Really, what is the point???
At the end of the day, be you, do what you feel is best. If they leave they weren't meant to stay anyways. If they come back and things work out then that was how that relationship was meant to be. If they come back and things don't work out again then there must have been some lesson the both of you were meant to learn and take with into that relationship that WILL work for you.
Just stop it with all the nonsense, you have to talk this way, use this body language, look this way, wear this thing, do things in this pattern, and blah blah blah blah blah. Just be happy and be you. The rest will fall into place as it should.
Besides, doing all that phony crap to "reel someone in" is merely surface and then you have someone falling for the fake persona you put across instead of the real you, and isn't that what we all want? To be loved, accepted, and cherished for who we really are? Flaws, Best traits, and quirks?
Of course it is, and if you're trying to sit there and say no you don't well here is what I have to say to that: You may lie to me if you wish, but you cannot lie to yourself. You know that feeling you get when you say things like "that's not meant for me" "I'm meant to be alone" or other variations thereof? That's what you need to pay attention to, because we all get that saddened lurching feeling in our chest when we tell ourselves we cannot truly be lovable.
Again, I never post without reason, I started thinking this concept over some time ago and then I was watching GIRLS last night on HBO. (SPOILER ALERT if you didn't watch) But Hannah and Adam got back together. Despite all her issues, all his issues, him rejecting her, her rejecting him, they still love each other and in fact one could venture to say that they love each other BECAUSE of those "issues" and quirks and all the good bad and ugly that comes with knowing or getting to know all the facets of a person.
I hope for that everyday...maybe I've already found it. Time will tell, but I am happy right now and that is all that I need.
That's my thought for the day. Have a good one!
