So here is Making an Effort (published April 6, 2011 on my personal Facebook Page)
To be honest, I would trade all the cute/fun/flirty text messages I have received in my lifetime for one very well thought out love note. Old fashioned, sent snail mail with flowers (Lilies namely as they are my fave and roses get too much attention as is). And when I say well thought out, I mean pages long, and written just for me and no one else. Something that would make me think twice about vulnerability again.
The thought had crossed my mind today as I was driving home, enjoying the beautiful weather, windows down, and listening to Nat King Cole. I was listening to the song L.O.V.E and thinking about how many memories are attached to that song for me. My mom, when I was little used to dance in the living room to it with me(something I still continue to do with my son), even danced with me at her wedding for the song too. But the one that stood out and frankly inspired this long long LONG note (LOL) was a high school memory. A high school boyfriend used the song to ask me out, complete with some words of his own. It was sweet and the romance didn't last long but hey...it was high school.
It just got me thinking that people just don't even try any more. We are all blinded by technology forgetting that no matter how much technology changes, humans and their behaviors remain very much the same. I mean all technology only develops out of an initial human necessity anyways and then usually gets "repurposed" for other needs of the human which ahem I won't mention here.
I may be the most distant, oblivious and aloof woman in the world sometimes but I honestly just get so turned off by the weak sauce and weak game people give one another and frankly are allowed to give one another thanks to inventions like Facebook and SMS. And I gotta be honest here too, I really don't think it's healthy for significant others, or folks who are just starting out anyways, to be Facebook friends. It takes all the mystery out of getting to know each other, and gives you less topics to discuss. What I mean by mystery is finding out about a person, what makes them tick, what things they like and etc first hand, organically if you will.
This whole thing with let's Facebook each other and I'm gonna stalk your page so I don't have to do any REAL work is bogus. I'm sure that might not sit well with some as they read this but I honestly think all the texting, emailing, IMing, Facebooking, and all the other technologically assisted communication of the day is frankly eliminating the human element in really getting to know another person. But what do I know, I keep to myself, usually end up being the friend that is supportive and watches as my object of affection falls for someone else, and I already have failed marriage number one under my belt but I am after all just speaking my mind, offering a humble opinion take it as you will.
We all know I spend a whole lot of time up in my own brain space as it is, his is just how I attempt to clear the clutter. Good Night yall!!
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