Marriage and Honour

Today, I watched something that made me think about a topic near and dear to my heart: Our nation's troops and veterans and the ladies who have "loved" them.

At this point, one might wonder why I put quotes around loved but there is a rhyme to my reason.

What I was watching earlier today was a story about a double amputee vet who after being injured and medically discharged from the military, had his wife leave him.



Well, reader, this positively irked me almost to the point of nausea and certainly to the point of disgust. I will never understand the type of woman that could do that to a man who has sacrificed so much for his beliefs.

I feel like these women who desert these men in their time of need, their most desperate hour, are not realistically assessing what they are getting themselves into. They enter into these unions without realistically understanding that things like death, PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder), injury, amputations, and so forth are par for the course for the man that comes back from war.

some of these women simply get involved in the marriage because they see these men as their meal ticket, some get involved because they get swept up in the romance of it, and some simply just love the "man in a uniform" thing. Whatever they're motivation (and I'm not really even trying to pretend to know) this bs about packing up shop and breaking up families the moment a piece of a man becomes broken in a manner of speaking, is quite frankly BS!

Now I'm not saying that all these women that desert their marriages are not necessarily justified in their actions. there are instances where for the safety of their family and well being they had to leave. Then there are the others that seem to try to destroy whatever is left of the man. Women like this, even though I don't condone PHYSICAL violence, make me want to slap them and say, "B---ch! This is what you signed up for when you said I do! Where the F are you going?"

Sure, some reading this will not agree, i leave you to make you're own opinions.

I simply say this because once upon a time I had a roommate who was dating a soldier and they subsequently became engaged. I constantly had to bring up the "do you know what you are signing up for?" conversation with her. Why? Well, this individual was so busy worrying about how she would feel about things instead of what would actually be happening to him and what he would be going through. She simply didn't get that as a soldiers wife, you have to be brave, you have to be constant. Part of taking on the responsibility of military spouse is to be that support system needed no matter what the fates may bring. She was more concerned about using the commissary on the base....

To give another example, when I was working in a hospital there was a veteran who had a severe TBI (traumatic brain injury). He basically needed help with EVERYTHING. What did I find out about this veteran? Not only had his wife left but he hadn't seen his child in MONTHS! What in the world?!?!

Again, you are welcome to your own opinions, and I am free to express mine.